One thing your inner neurotic's got right these days is that some of your so-called "friends" are not friends at all. Problem is, our standards for friendships these days are reeeeeeeall sketchy. Planned obsolescence comes to mind, actually. It works for cars, but that kind of disposability was never intended for human relationships.
I'm not against social networking. This is not a rant against social networking, because it's kind of a requirement these days. But really --no one wants even a Facebook friend who's there 'cause they want you to buy their tea tree oil soap.
But today is a good day for noting how and why we connect with others.
Today Venus meets her frenemy, Nessus. Nessus is actually everyone's frenemy. Don't know Nessus? He's a player in astrology these days.
Nessus is a centaur who's basic story goes like this: he had the hots for a taken woman and gave her ride; but he made a pass at her (which, depending on the story did or did not go well) and then gave her a jacket as some swag for her guy, saying he was sorry and this jacket here will make him look better than ever. Turns out, the jacket was poisoned. Nice. Girl looses her guy from the poisoned jacket.
Nessus stands in for the people, circumstances and ideas who appear to help us, but don't. There's always some boundary crosses, some promise broken. And then they hand us poison and say they're sorry. Nessus' brand of backstabbing is subtle and often confusing. It's a sick head game because whatever happens, we feel as if somehow we're the ones at fault. Maybe I shouldn't have taken that ride, says the rape victim. Maybe I shouldn't have trusted that old high school buddy and studied that investment plan harder...
Venus meets with Nessus today, at 17+ degrees Aquarius, and it's like an assignation after school at the local Quick Trip. Seventeen degrees Aquarius is a place with recent history: this is at the EXACT degree of the 2008 February 7th annular solar eclipse in Aquarius. On the 2008 February 7th eclipse, Mercury sat on the eclipse degree. Pluto has just begun it's 15 year journey through Capricorn (exactly square the Aries Point). Put it together and you've got the first steps that will break up the old gang --allowing new friends (or a new milieu) in for the long haul. Something's started, you just don't know what.
This time (2010) we meet seventeen degrees Aquarius with Venus who's working a lot smarter and brought two friends along. Sure, Nessus her frienemy is there, but Venus was passing notes with Pallas today. Pallas is a smart girl, too, and she's got the dirt on Nessus. She know's his pattern. Haumea is Venus's friend today, too. She says, "Start over, girl. Shakes this one loose, coz who needs all that false guilt hanging on you?"
Think about it. How many times have we allowed a friend to take advantage of us and left us feeling WE did something wrong? Today's a good day to get clear about what really happened, or at least begin distancing your emotions from the entanglement.
The Virgo Moon can give us some discrimination today. If you've got a bad vibe about a group or an association or friend --listen to it. Even if it's old history. Do you want to play into worn out patterns that haven't served you, or left you feeling used? On the other hand, maybe you played the Nessus. Maybe you need to think about what motivates your un-friendly sabotaging. Handed anyone poison recently because you couldn't handle your own dark self?
Because we've all got a little Nessus in us --the monster within who'd take an advantage and then freak out when we realize maybe we went too far with it. And then try to cover our tracks.
Frienemies make great sit-com plot characters, but there's nothing funny about them in real life. Today and this week, think about the behavior patterns of your friendship needs. Maybe you play victim AND perpetrator in your friendships. Even within your own self: how do you sabotage your own ideas and ideals? Are you overly accepting and undiscerning? Or are you too rigid and unable to receive what others offer you?
This week you might finally see what you couldn't admit before. Just don't forget Jupiter in Pisces --there's something very very good here if you want it. Do you want it?
